For those of you who don't know me, I am not married and I have never been married, but I am just going to share a few tips which I think would work when you are looking to date someone or planning to get married.
1) Friendship; the importance of friendship in any relationship, engagement or marriage cannot be over emphasized. Movies and books have done their utmost best to teach us that love never fails, love is forever and blah blah blah...But guess what? there are times when the love wont be that strong, You'll long for new adventures and stuff, but what would keep you going is the friendship. When a couple is able to separate their love life from their friendship, it does go long way, because even if you're not feeling the love the friendship would remain hold till the love replenishes.
2) Love for God: make sure that you and your partner have the fear of God and love God with all your heart. Now i'm not saying loving God as in going to church sleeping in church kind of loving God. I mean loving God and following in His steps. God is the perfect example of Love, He forsook His son Jesus Christ for our own benefit, His son Jesus Christ also spent His whole time on earth teaching us what love is, He is the perfect poster boy for love. So what it is is that marriage is a long life journey of learning to love like Christ, so if your spouse does not know Christ, how can he/she learn to love like Christ?
3) You need to know the real meaning of abuse: So most people do not know what abuse means. Took me quite a long time to learn myself. Abuse is not necessarily having someone get physical with you, it can also be emotional. Emotional abuse is the worst of all. so this is how it goes, if today this person who loves you is beautiful and nice and everything, and tommorrow that same person is a total meanie, and youre left wondering what is happeing, but you cannot leave because you 'know deep down' that the person 'loves you' that is complete emotional abuse. Speak to the person to change, chances are that person wouldn't, but try anyway, please if it fails, run as far as your legs will take you. If you notice abuse and find it difficult to leave, tell someone you trust who can help you break free from this cycle of abuse.
4) Make a plan: When I say make a plan, I'm not talking about designing your wedding outfit, or day dreaming about what you want your wedding day to look like, I'm talking serious planning. here are a few questions to ask;
what church will we worship in?
what will be our source of income?
what kind of house would be live in?
what kind of investments do we want to prioritise?
how many kids do we want to have?
how much do we want to spend on their education?
what day would be date night?
The questions are endless. The answers to theses questions may change overtime, but what is important is that you know if you're on the same page. for these questions I suggest you buy a copy of Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll.
There is more...like the end of many Nollywood movies WATCH OUT FOR PART 2
1) Friendship; the importance of friendship in any relationship, engagement or marriage cannot be over emphasized. Movies and books have done their utmost best to teach us that love never fails, love is forever and blah blah blah...But guess what? there are times when the love wont be that strong, You'll long for new adventures and stuff, but what would keep you going is the friendship. When a couple is able to separate their love life from their friendship, it does go long way, because even if you're not feeling the love the friendship would remain hold till the love replenishes.
2) Love for God: make sure that you and your partner have the fear of God and love God with all your heart. Now i'm not saying loving God as in going to church sleeping in church kind of loving God. I mean loving God and following in His steps. God is the perfect example of Love, He forsook His son Jesus Christ for our own benefit, His son Jesus Christ also spent His whole time on earth teaching us what love is, He is the perfect poster boy for love. So what it is is that marriage is a long life journey of learning to love like Christ, so if your spouse does not know Christ, how can he/she learn to love like Christ?
3) You need to know the real meaning of abuse: So most people do not know what abuse means. Took me quite a long time to learn myself. Abuse is not necessarily having someone get physical with you, it can also be emotional. Emotional abuse is the worst of all. so this is how it goes, if today this person who loves you is beautiful and nice and everything, and tommorrow that same person is a total meanie, and youre left wondering what is happeing, but you cannot leave because you 'know deep down' that the person 'loves you' that is complete emotional abuse. Speak to the person to change, chances are that person wouldn't, but try anyway, please if it fails, run as far as your legs will take you. If you notice abuse and find it difficult to leave, tell someone you trust who can help you break free from this cycle of abuse.
4) Make a plan: When I say make a plan, I'm not talking about designing your wedding outfit, or day dreaming about what you want your wedding day to look like, I'm talking serious planning. here are a few questions to ask;
what church will we worship in?
what will be our source of income?
what kind of house would be live in?
what kind of investments do we want to prioritise?
how many kids do we want to have?
how much do we want to spend on their education?
what day would be date night?
The questions are endless. The answers to theses questions may change overtime, but what is important is that you know if you're on the same page. for these questions I suggest you buy a copy of Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll.
There is more...like the end of many Nollywood movies WATCH OUT FOR PART 2
Wow,nice piece coming from sone1 who in her own words said 'I'm not married and I have never been married' but you believe me you did justice to that topic Funsho. God bless you real good. O ni shi marry!!!
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